How do you define your relationship goals? What is a successful marriage like in your eyes?
We men like result. It’s good cos it drives us to work hard & be a better man – but to channel this emotions well, we must clearly define what is the desired *result*, and then break that down to the specific KPIs (key performance indicators).
To have a successful marriage, we must not measure our marriage success with the lovey-dovey feeling. If we do, the measurement would not objective: we may feel great about our marriage one day, & then feel disappointed next day just because we’re quarreling. Hoping to keep a loving feeling constantly sets us up to get disappointed constantly.